[FRIAM] Counselor?

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Re: Openness -- You've got it exactly right!  We're all fragile in spite of the toxic masculinity that dominates our world(s).  On one of my trips to visit a foreign client, we'd had a bit too much to drink and they expressed gratitude at my willingness to share too much information (TMI).  It set them at ease when they were hunting for "experts" in a field that intimidated them.  I tried to explain that _weakness_ is a strength.  I want to blame the fact that English was a 2nd language for them for my failure to explain it properly.  (Well, that and the beer, I'm sure.)  Openness and vulnerability are the hallmarks of strength.  Keep sharing.  The more you sow, the more you reap.

On 01/30/2018 07:42 AM, Gillian Densmore wrote:
> Nick
> Thank you much for getting back to me!
> @Heavy side first  me and  Psychiatrist Noah Freedman whom I have only seen
> a few times are trying my old mix of Lamictal and Cymbalta starting with
> the lamictal and then next session adding Cymbolta.  Yes and it turns out
> under my happy go lucky care free, hail fellow well met exterior is a
> person that's quite fragile. Much more so than I knew.
> So the anti-depressents are their just so anxeities both rational and total
> giberish are kept in perspective.
> Noah Freedman was talking about doing Lithium. That sounds pretty heavy
> handed.
> 
> You do bring up a good point!. I humoursly say Welcome to bonkers world!
> Where's a shuttle to Galifrey where The Doctor (Doctor Who humor) Firstly
> it's complete bull***  for those bonkers people to keep saying people can
> do stuff on their own/  Very few people does everything on their own. And
> it's even Bull**** for those bonkers trolling A**** to  F*** with S*** that
>  directly effect the lifes myself, family, the SO, friends etc. Then they
> pretend wonder why people have had enough all of them. I'm an optimist and
> think hey well ya know, some good can still come from this. Maybie now
> we'll get around to providing basics and have encourage people to get
> gether. Well I choose to hope that'se the case anyway.
> 
>  So  you're right their is some anxieties their.  Along with getting to the
> end of my rope being in a rut. Then came the question: How do I manage the
> intimidate problem of a anxiety and depression attack (Thursday and
> Friday), and the longer issue of a counselor to help stay grounded and
> doing uplifting grunt work. Both because it'd be good for me to get out of
> the house, do stuff to work my hands and body and because I might make
> friends.  By grunt work I meen: go vauluntere for the elderly that just
> want company to cook with, if we had beaches I'd say go do that, walk
> peoples dogs etc. You know uplifting gruntwork, I also looked  find  out if
> theirs a walk and hiking group to get out the house with people, expose my
> self to new places in town. (Walk groups--ish) And some starter hike groups.
> Also turns out
> I don't do well with pure brain work for long!
> 
> Uplifting dream wise I've tried a few times to get meet-and greet and just
> get to gether for fun and grunt work: fixer up odd jobs, just simple
> campinionship type of nonproffit a few times. And that's still a dream and
> pation of mine.
> 
> @Counselor Re: Deberah Wimberly. Oh yeah! when I was seing her  many years
> ago she was fairly well plugged into the counseling world in New Mexico.
> That is a good idea! Since I saw her for basically the same kinds of issues
> for a long time, their's a good chance the'd know someone that's a good
> match.
> 
> @FRIAM  yeah it didn't get any responese the first time. So I sent out a
> second mail since stuff sometimes gets lost in the noise. Somtimes one of
> the Moderators says a topic isn't the right place for FRIAM. I have no idea
> these days what ones are vs Not.
> 
> Friday I litterally said to myself: Wait! I've been here! and I I think
> it'd be good for me in to open up more in general, turns out, seems to be
> helping. Just in this short time people I wave hi at people where I am such
> as smiths or on the street.  People are saying OMG yes! I'm trying to fix
> or do (thing here) and like you say one person was having  legit anxiety
> and panic attack because their 401K and Medicare is at huge risk from the
> powers that be.  Or For example at my game meet up one of the help staff
> has also tried to get  just a odd-job  meet and greet place going, here
> friends want to sink their teeth into one.  So we might end up doing that
> together.
> 
> I suspect I'm being way more open because: How else do you potentially meet
> people or stay out of your head than doing so? It doesn't need be heavy.
> Theirs a person with a lab I see somtimes on a canion road walk. Turns out
> they just  like walking with a male so as their dog feels safe (rescue dog
> who was super friendly to me)..
> 
> I am also trying to live more day to day and purpously do new and different
> things, from different combinations of clothes, to trying new kinds of
> music,  going to different places that I haven't been to in santa fe,
> purposly walking where I can. Despite what the depression thought sunday It
> is absoutely fantastic weather, it'll just get better.
> 
> 
> Thank you again for the ideas!. Seriusly that is very awesome!

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