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<p>Marcus wrote:<br>
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<p class="MsoNormal">I actually don’t understand why people
consider the social lubrication provide by non-verbal,
in-person communication a good thing. It seems to be widely
believed that it is good if people don’t offend one another,
and that in-person communication makes that easier.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">If there is a lack of context in a message,
and some of the contexts would be offensive to some audience,
then it is just as true in person.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">If someone smiles when they say it, really
what is the difference? Maybe what they are really doing is
trying to bias the distribution of received interpretations to
benign ones, while at the same time disseminating and
normalizing the not-so-benign interpretations?</p>
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<p>... and add the insidiousness of NLP and it gets yet more
interesting...</p>
<p>I personally appreciate both modes A LOT. I've learned some
interesting/important things about some of the "voices" on this
list by meeting the very same people in person, and/or on Video
Chat. When we are doing the "brady bunch" thing on zoom, it
helps me to see who is listening to who with what posture before
they respond. I *believe* I can read some of that stuff
effectively over video, but I could be wrong. I also appreciate
the more thoughtful, introspective responses that text allows with
it's asynchronous nature... and the "distance" of
space/time/txt. I also accept/acknowledge that everyone has
their own comfort with different "modes". <br>
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<p>I do like your phrase: "trying to bias the distribution of
received interpretations to benign ones, while at the same time
disseminating and normalizing the not-so-benign
interpretations". I'm only passingly familiar with NLP but I've
experienced this many times (mostly from evil bosses and
salespeople) and can't believe it isn't a learned skill with a
whole section in the training manual.<br>
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<p>- Steve<br>
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